It happened at night. A respected teacher of Israel, a member of the ruling council, slipped through the streets of Jerusalem with a question burning in his heart. He had seen the signs Jesus performed. He had heard the rumors. And something inside him would not let him sleep until he heard the truth from the Carpenter's own lips.
His name was Nicodemus. And what Jesus said to him in that quiet midnight conversation has shaken the world ever since.
Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again. John 3:3
Born again. Not reformed. Not improved. Not turned over a new leaf. Born again. An entirely new beginning. A second birth.
What Nicodemus heard
You can hear the confusion in Nicodemus's voice. "How can someone be born when they are old? Surely they cannot enter a second time into their mother's womb to be born!" (John 3:4). He took Jesus literally — and missed the point entirely.
This was a man who had spent his life mastering the Law. He kept the feasts. He gave alms. He prayed at the appointed hours. By every external standard, Nicodemus was as righteous as a man could be. And yet here is Jesus telling him that none of it — none of it — was enough.
The most religious man in the conversation needed to be born again.
Two births, two kingdoms
Jesus answered with a distinction that cuts straight to the heart of the gospel:
Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You should not be surprised at my saying, 'You must be born again.' John 3:6–7
Your first birth made you a citizen of this world. You inherited a body that grows tired, a mind that wanders, a heart that is bent toward sin from the moment you draw breath. That is the legacy of Adam. Flesh gives birth to flesh. No amount of effort can change the family you were born into.
But there is a second birth. A birth not of blood, not of human will, not of the flesh — but of God Himself. When the Spirit of God breathes new life into a soul, that soul becomes a citizen of a different kingdom. Old things pass away. All things become new.
How does it happen?
Three verses later, Jesus spoke the most famous sentence in human history:
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
The new birth is not a project you complete. It is a gift you receive. It comes the moment you turn from your sin and place your trust — your full, naked, helpless trust — in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
Not in your good works. Not in your church attendance. Not in your family heritage. Not even in your impressive religious knowledge, like Nicodemus had. In Jesus alone.
Three things every born-again person knows
One — They were once spiritually dead
Paul writes in Ephesians 2:1, "As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins." Not sick. Not weak. Dead. A dead man cannot help himself. He needs someone to call him out of the tomb. That is what Jesus did at salvation — He spoke life into a corpse.
Two — They did not earn it
The new birth is grace from beginning to end. The same passage continues, "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith — and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God" (Ephesians 2:8). If you contributed anything to your salvation, you would have something to boast about. The whole point is that you do not.
Three — They are changed
Real new birth produces real new life. Not perfect life — we still stumble — but a heart that loves what it once hated, and hates what it once loved. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" (2 Corinthians 5:17). If nothing has changed, you may want to ask whether the new birth has actually happened.
Have you been born again?
Friend, this is not a religious question. It is the question. Jesus did not say, "You may want to consider being born again." He said, "You must be born again." No exceptions. No alternatives. No back doors.
The good news — the gospel — is that the door is wide open this very moment. You do not have to clean yourself up first. You do not have to understand everything. You do not have to feel a certain way. You simply have to come.
Pray a prayer like this, and mean it from your heart:
"Lord Jesus, I confess I am a sinner. I cannot save myself. I believe You died on the cross for my sins and rose again from the dead. Right now, I turn from my sin and put my trust in You alone. Save me. Make me Your child. Be my Lord. Amen."
If you prayed that prayer in faith, the Bible says you have just been born again. The kingdom of God is now your home. Welcome to the family.
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In His Hands,
Rev. George H. Stoddard